Saturday, June 16, 2012

The one where she talks about a do-over

I used to spend a lot of time analyzing past "fork in the road" decisions. Good Lord, what a waste of time! The fact is could have, should have and would have all amount to didn't. Unless there is still time to undo a decision, it is pointless to consider the alternatives.

If I had zigged instead of zagged at any number of points in my life, things might have been very different. I might have picked a different university, or a different major. Maybe I would have met a sweet guy at a coffee house in a different town. And then I might not have met The Husband or had The Parasite. What a horrible thought! I can't imagine a life without either one of them. Would I have saved some painful experiences? Maybe. But maybe I needed to learn those lessons to make different choices later.

I made a promise to myself to make decisions I wouldn't regret, and then move on. It has encouraged a lifetime of careful consideration and decisiveness. I don't believe in much, but I do believe things happen for a reason. All of the choices I have made have delivered me to exactly where I needed to be, exactly when I needed to be there. I am right where I'm supposed to be. In other words if I had my life to live over, I wouldn't change a damn thing!

This post is written as part of GBE2 - Week #56 word prompt: If I had my life to live over... For more info about GBE2, click here


danneromero said...

i, too, believe things happen for a reason.. why mess with that?

Anonymous said...

I wouldn't want to change anything major--not even the really hard stuff--for the very reason you mentioned. The most I would do is to tweak the little details a little, but just a little.

1 Bad Mom said...

I'm not a big fan of do-overs. I used to be. Something about hitting 30 made me say enough is enough.

Plus, why dwell on something we can't change when we can focus on what we can change now for the future? I'm so much happier now that I've started doing that. :)

Emme Rogers said...

Love it! Wise woman.

Our mistakes are what makes us who we are, and without them we wouldn't learn.