I got pregnant pretty easily the first time around. We more "stopped preventing" than "started trying" and *poof* it just happened. Naturally I assumed the next time around would be just as easy. All systems came back online after the last pregnancy in January 2010 and we "stopped preventing" last June. "They" say that after the age of 35, you should start investigating the causes of infertility after six months.
There, I said it. Infertility. But wait a minute, we already have a child. Surely that means we can't be infertile, right? A lot of people think that, but apparently 60% of couples in fertility counseling already have one or more children. I saw the doctor a couple of weeks ago to start the referral process for a specialist. I got requisition forms for a bunch of tests, included the oh-so-fun pelvic ultrasound. It took me weeks to work up the nerve to see the doctor in the first place, and it's been weeks more since but I haven't gotten to calling for the ultrasound appointment or having the blood work done.
Now, I have been very busy at work and it legitimately slipped my mind a few times. And then I was all set to make the calls on Friday but I left the paperwork at home. But part of me is starting to wonder if there's not just a teeny bit of self-sabotage going on here, like I'm afraid of hearing bad news. Hell, who isn't? But tomorrow I have to rip off the bandaid and make the call.
Sunday, April 3, 2011
Friday, April 1, 2011
The Host Updates
The Parasite is mere days away from two years old. In getting her here, I faced so much anxiety. I shed so many tears and, frankly, spent a lot of time wondering what the hell I had done. Now I look at her every day and with wonder and ask The Husband what we did to deserve something so awesome. 
Being a mom to her is the best job I have ever had. Life with a parasite has been so wonderful, we decided last summer that we wanted another one. So we did what came naturally and waited. And waited. And waited. We're still waiting. I'm about to start investigating what may be wrong. I've decided to chronicle the journey here because well... I just have.
Being a mom to her is the best job I have ever had. Life with a parasite has been so wonderful, we decided last summer that we wanted another one. So we did what came naturally and waited. And waited. And waited. We're still waiting. I'm about to start investigating what may be wrong. I've decided to chronicle the journey here because well... I just have.
Thursday, September 10, 2009
10 Things I Wish I Had Known...
1. Breastfeeding can be HARD. It's a round the clock effort and exhausting. But it is very rewarding when everything finally clicks.
2. If you have to pee, do it BEFORE you settle in to feed the baby. Nothing quite like yanking your pants up and down with one hand while trying to keep a hungry baby latched on because she SCREAMS if you try to put her down.
3. It takes about six weeks for the human body to harden to the effects of sleep deprivation. Before that, you WILL walk into things in a fog. People who haven't been there just don't understand and they never will. They think that because they pulled an all-nighter once in University, they know how you feel. Uh-huh. One all-nighter, eh? TRY TWELVE IN A ROW, BITCHES!
4. The don't intervene medically until the baby hasn't pooped for TEN DAYS. Sure, they look for signs of a blockage before then but they do nothing until Day 10 and even then it's only a glycerin suppository.
5. A baby's laugh is the very best sound in the whole world.
6. If any book/website/person tells you ALL THINGS MUST BE THIS WAY, you have my permission to ignore anything that book/website/person is saying in perpetuity. Babies are little humans. Their needs are simple, but their behaviour does not fit in neat little boxes. Anyone who says that it does is a fucking idiot.
7. They're best off when you leave them the fuck alone to figure out their own bodily functions. Once they've regained their birth weight, waking them up every 2 to 3 hours to eat just makes you AND baby miserable. How would you feel about getting woken up from a "deep" sleep to someone shoving food in your face? Yeah. You'd probably tell the person trying to force feed you to piss off.
8. Watching your baby meet a new milestone will make your heart swell. My baby rolled over today for the first time and it brought tears to my eyes.
9. Sure, you're a parent now, but you're still a spouse too. Having sex while keeping one ear out for the baby on the monitor is NOT hot at all. But if you want to keep a happy marriage going, you have to find the time to treat each other like a couple in love.
10. It'll be no time at all before you can't remember a life before baby, and it doesn't matter because a life with baby is just SO much better.
2. If you have to pee, do it BEFORE you settle in to feed the baby. Nothing quite like yanking your pants up and down with one hand while trying to keep a hungry baby latched on because she SCREAMS if you try to put her down.
3. It takes about six weeks for the human body to harden to the effects of sleep deprivation. Before that, you WILL walk into things in a fog. People who haven't been there just don't understand and they never will. They think that because they pulled an all-nighter once in University, they know how you feel. Uh-huh. One all-nighter, eh? TRY TWELVE IN A ROW, BITCHES!
4. The don't intervene medically until the baby hasn't pooped for TEN DAYS. Sure, they look for signs of a blockage before then but they do nothing until Day 10 and even then it's only a glycerin suppository.
5. A baby's laugh is the very best sound in the whole world.
6. If any book/website/person tells you ALL THINGS MUST BE THIS WAY, you have my permission to ignore anything that book/website/person is saying in perpetuity. Babies are little humans. Their needs are simple, but their behaviour does not fit in neat little boxes. Anyone who says that it does is a fucking idiot.
7. They're best off when you leave them the fuck alone to figure out their own bodily functions. Once they've regained their birth weight, waking them up every 2 to 3 hours to eat just makes you AND baby miserable. How would you feel about getting woken up from a "deep" sleep to someone shoving food in your face? Yeah. You'd probably tell the person trying to force feed you to piss off.
8. Watching your baby meet a new milestone will make your heart swell. My baby rolled over today for the first time and it brought tears to my eyes.
9. Sure, you're a parent now, but you're still a spouse too. Having sex while keeping one ear out for the baby on the monitor is NOT hot at all. But if you want to keep a happy marriage going, you have to find the time to treat each other like a couple in love.
10. It'll be no time at all before you can't remember a life before baby, and it doesn't matter because a life with baby is just SO much better.
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