Monday, May 23, 2011

By any means necessary - Question one

I'll admit that since we're new to the world of infertility treatment, I hadn't given much thought to the questions that might come up from our first or (eventual) second child about their beginnings. Luckily, the Dollars and $ense of Family Building, a blog carnival on BlogHer has a list of thought-provoking questions to force me to map my strategy. I'm not going to answer them all in one go because frankly it's a little too much introspection for me on a long weekend. I'm going to tackle them one at a time starting now with the following question:

If two children in a family "cost" different amounts, should that have any significance?

The Parasite was conceived the old-fashioned way, far too many glasses of wine after a terrible day. The second will require at least some intervention, the extent of which is yet to be determined. Will we ever tell the kids that one was "free" and the other wasn't? What if it turns out we're having trouble conceiving the second because of the first? Will I lay that on her?

Unless there is some genetic cause the child(ren) should be aware of when planning their own families, I don't really think they need to know details about the circumstances that brought them here. I mean seriously! The thought of your parents having sex is oogie enough. Does anyone REALLY want to think about dad's adventures in aiming for a sample cup?

Visit Write Mind Open Heart for more perspectives on the Dollars and $ense of Family Building and to add your own link to the blog hop by June 21, should you want to contribute your thoughts.


Lori Lavender Luz said...


Yours is an interesting situation -- one kid who came effortlessly (unless you count uncorking a bottle effort) and one (hopeully) who requires assistance.

I wonder if my adopting my children eases the oogie factor for them?

Glad you joined the blog hop, Host.

The Host said...

Thanks for hosting it!